Posted September 2, 2009
Daily Marriage Tips
Tips courtesy of Susan Vogt, MA, CFLE
Taken from http://www.foryourmarriage.org/marriage_tips.asp
"In a committed, loving, covenantal relationship sex is sacramental, ... open(ing) both persons to become life-giving, gracious, and blessing adults." (Fr. Ronald Rolheiser) How does your sexual relationship make you a better person in the rest of your life?
In marriage, we lead and follow. It's like a dance in which we have to be sensitive to the signals of the other and balance our own needs with those of our spouse. Are you more of a leader or a follower?
Having a successful marriage depends not so much on FINDING the right person but BEING the right person. Can a change in my behavior make our marriage happier?
"When my grandma got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandpa does it for her now all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." (Rebecca - age 8)
One of the great temptations of marriage is to take each other for granted. Don't wait for a crisis. Thank God today for your life partner and give a word of appreciation to your spouse.
When it's hard to forgive a spouse who has "done you wrong," try praying this way, "Oh Lord, help me forgive those who sin differently than I do." Now is the time for healing, not self-righteousness.
Do you have a hobby that your spouse does not enjoy or have time for? Does it steal undue time, money, or attention from your family? Is your spouse complaining about it? That's a hint.
Identify what recreational pursuits REALLY feed your spirit. Is it conversation or quiet, going out or staying home, being a participant or a spectator, with a crowd or just by yourselves?
When is fun not fun? When your spouse feels left out. List your favorite hobbies noting which you both share and which are yours alone. What would your spouse say?
Name one weakness in your marriage. Don't ignore it or be afraid of it; deal with it. If you have invited God into your marriage, lean on the Lord for help. New ways of coping may become clear to you.