Posted February 9, 2015
Book: Catholic Prayer Book for Separated and Divorced
Authors: Woodeene Koenig-Bricker and David Dziena
Our Sunday Visitor. Huntington, IN. 2014. Pp. 79
An Excerpt from the Jacket:
Catholic Prayer Book for the Separated and Divorced is full of brief prayers for real-life struggles and situations including:
Anger, depression, and isolation
Coping with the effects on children - your own, as well as stepchildren
Grappling with less-than-peaceful interactions with former spouses
How to forgive yourself, find closure, and let go
For yourself, an adult child, a friend, or someone in your parish --- these simple prayers can help the separated and divorced find comfort, courage, and the conviction to move ahead confidently with the grace that comes from their Catholic faith.
Prayer of Saint John XXIII for Fathers
"Real fatherhood means love and commitment and sacrifice . . .to share responsibility and not walking away from one's children." William Bennett
Saint Joseph, guardian of Jesus and chaste husband of Mary,
You passed your life in loving fulfillment of duty.
You supported the holy family of Nazareth
With the work of your hands.
Kindly protect those who trustingly come to you.
You know their aspirations,
Their hardships, their hopes.
They look to you because they know
You will understand and protect them.
You too knew trial, labor, and weariness.
But amid the worries of material life,
Your soul was full of deep peace and sang out in true joy
Through intimacy with God's Son entrusted to you and
With Mary, his tender Mother.
Assure those you protect that they do not labor alone.
Teach them to find Jesus near them and to watch
Over him faithfully as you have done. Amen
Many divorced fathers, do not see their children every day. Think about ways you can parent, coach, affirm and love even from afar.
Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life." Akshay Dubey
"You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one." Unknown
Pope Francis has said, "Never let the past determine your life . . .always look forward." Pray for the ability to let go of past mistakes or sins. Free yourself of guilt, or of what could have been. Learn from the past, but live in the present.
Table of Contents:
Part 1: Prayers for the five stages of loss and grief
Denial and isolation
Part 2: Prayers for my children
For my kids
Guardian Angel prayer to watch over my children
For my stepchildren
For when stepparents and stepchildren fight
For when you don't get along with your stepchildren
For patience with my children
Prayer when my former spouse is causing scandal for my children
Prayer for peaceful interaction with my former spouse
Blessing for children departing for the other parent's home
Part 3: Traditional prayers and devotions
Making a spiritual communion when I cannot receive communion
The Lord's prayer
The Apostles' Creed
Prayers to the Holy Spirit
Prayers to Mary
Rosary for the separated and divorced
The Divine Mercy Chaplet
Pope Francis's prayer to our Lady Undoer of Knots
Prayer of Pope Saint John XXIII for fathers
Litany to Saint Joseph, Patron saint of fathers
Act of faith, hope and love
Act of contrition
Part 4: Personal prayers and reflections
For dealing with adversity
For letting go
For ending gossip and the sin of detraction
For my former spouse/partner
For forgiveness of self
For my new relationship/spouse
For overcoming difficult times
For overcoming hate
For help and healing during the divorce and annulment process
For those I've lost and who have been hurt through my separation/divorce
A prayer for grandparents
Part 5: Prayers for the intercession of the patron saints of the separated/divorced
Saint Eugene de Mazenod